There has been a lot of talk on social media about the Netflix show My Unorthodox Life these last couple weeks, and it has brought up a lot of different emotions for me. I thought I had healed from my upbringing, but I have found that I am still broken. After listening to others express their feelings for several days, I wanted to share how it has made me feel and what I have learned from this experience.
Sometime, we are beset with fear, panic, anxiety, unhappiness or other negative feelings. In this episode, Matana explains how mindset and proper preconditioning can offset negative emotions, but still hold on to them, in the right way.
As Matana celebrates a two year milestone and wishes a Happy Birthday to the Hope to Recharge podcast, she gives gratitude to those instrumental in those who offered support and guidance in its creation. Although the microphone for the podcast was purchased many many months prior, she couldn’t get the first step in opening the box and it laid on the side for some time. Through perseverance and hand holding, she took that initial step to open the box, despite her fears, anxiety and doubt.
As the Jewish Holiday of Shavuot approaches, Matana faces her Trauma, as this was the date that she had her first panic attack, which was the drive behind creating this podcast and creating a space dedicated to helping those in need, who also suffer from depression and anxiety.
Laura Messner grew up in a typical home until her parents divorced when she was eight years old. After she became aware of how little she got to see her father, she began chasing after perfection in every way she could think of to “earn” his attention… until she developed an eating disorder and eventually attempted suicide. She came to learn self-love and to take responsibility for her own pain and healing journey. As a teenager, she resisted help because she was unwilling to admit that everything inside was not perfect. It wasn’t until her late twenties that she came to understand that her struggles stemmed from the pain she felt from seeing herself as a victim of her father’s abandonment.
Tammy Ozolins is an extraordinary teacher. She returns to tell us of how teachers face an uphill battle in the field, boots on the ground, in the daunting challenge of helping teens who suffer with mental illness. She chooses to highlight the importance of being a friend to a student rather than a disciplinarian. In one instance, this technique resulted in a 6th grade student confiding to her years later, that her support drove him to not only graduate, but to join the marine corps with pride in who he was and what he became.
As mothers we are always putting others before ourselves and serving our families in ways that often go unseen. We are also wearing many other hats and putting ourselves continually on the back-burner and sometimes even neglecting our own mental health.
We are celebrating one full YEAR of Hope to Recharge and I have learned so much over the past hundred episodes! Before embarking on this journey, I thought I knew a lot about mental health, but after interviewing so many experts and hearing others’ stories, I realized how much more there is to learn, and how REAL the stigma around mental health really is.
Do you ever feel like you need to change who you are in order to fit into the rest of the world? Have you ever dealt with feeling “unseen” by those around you and struggle with a sense of belonging? This week we are with the incredible Jen Gotch who shares with us why there is an “upside” to being down.