Naomi’s original motivators to lose weight did not work in the long term. This was partly because they were all about avoiding something negative, not about gaining a positive (“I want to lose weight so I won’t be judged by strangers” vs “I want to lose weight so I can run around with my children”). The people surrounding her encouraged her to change focus. She calls these people her “team.” This includes not only her friends, colleagues, and family but also podcasters whom she listens to and authors she reads regularly, but has never met.